Hi Friends! Today, I wanted to take an opportunity to share a special person with all of you who has been inspiring and impacting women online for several years now. Jordan Lee Dooley is an ‘online influencer’ with a growing platform including a blog, a huge social media presence, a podcast and more. Next month, she is releasing a new book, entitled: Own Your Everyday: Overcome the Pressure to Prove and Show Up for What You Were Made to Do. The book is currently available for pre-order and officially releases on May 14th. I can NOT wait to read it, because if her meaningful captions on Instagram can move me in the way they do, I am beyond excited to see the impact a full length book will have!
I have a ‘love-hate’ relationship with self-help and self-development books. They often feel cringey, preachy, and non-relatable in the very worst way. But something about Jordan feels so much more different than that. Listening to her podcast feels like I’m sitting down and having a coffee with one of my very best friends. She’s hyper (like me), and smart (like my friends), and always willing to engage in meaningful conversation with her followers without putting herself on a pedestal.
In celebration of the upcoming book release, I wanted to share my 5 Favourite Quotes from Jordan. Hopefully these capture her inspirational persona in the way she deserves & if she sounds like your kinda gal, I’d encourage you to visit your favourite book retailer and pre-order ‘Own Your Everyday‘ now!
1. “You cannot live your purpose if you are busy trying to make it look like hers.”
What I love about this quote is that it embodies a message that says no to comparison. I don’t know about you, but I think that comparing our successes and failures to those around us is an easy trap to fall into. However, in listening to Jordan’s message through her blog posts and podcast episodes, I am learning that it is crucial for us to recognize that the only standard of success against we should measure ourselves is the one we’ve chosen as individuals. My purpose is mine alone, and if I get caught up in trying to match it to someone else, I’ll lose the focus of my own path.
2. “Your brokenness is welcome here.”
This is probably Jordan’s most ‘famous’ quote and one that is emblazoned across the apparel and gifts that she sells in her Soul Scripts shop. This message is actually how I first came across Jordan on Instagram, and is one that has resonated with me in a powerful way ever since. It is a message of unity in our vulnerability, and a reminder that we truly are all in this together. As much as someone may appear to have everything figured out, the truth is that every single one of us has insecurities, anxieties, and worries about the future. We are all human beings who fall into brokenness. That is where friendship, sisterhood, and community become so important. Finding a group with whom your brokenness can be embraced is so important, and the way that Jordan encourages that within her online community is refreshing.
3. “You must bravely decide, right now, that you will live a full life before every dream comes true. Your wholeness & happiness cannot depend on how your dreams happen. It must fuel your dreams.”
Okay you guys … I LOVE this take on happiness and dreams, because it feel so different from so much of the other messaging I’ve seen out there. I also feel like this completely encapsulates what the title of her book “Own Your Everyday” is intended to be all about.
It’s easy to think we will find happiness when we tick every box off our ‘to-do list,’ but in this life I’ve learned that not only will that list always keep growing, but also that human beings as a species are not transactional creatures. By that, I mean that we cannot buy our own happiness by achieving certain goals. Rather, we do much better when we seek out joy in the small moments of the ordinary days, and let the goals we are pursuing be fuelled by that, rather than the other way around.
4. “A happy life isn’t my goal. A meaningful one is. And that kind of life requires some seasons that aren’t so happy.”
If you’ve been following my blog, or if you know me in person you’ve probably gathered that ‘unhappiness’ is something I’ve learned to be comfortable with. Having dealt with immense grief, anxiety, and other times of deep darkness, I’ve learned that there is so much meaning in those battles that cannot neccesarily be found in times of joy. Now, does that mean I don’t seek out joy at every opportunity? Absolutely not! I am a very upbeat and happy person, however I’ve learned that appreciating the tough seasons for the opportunities of growth that they offer is really important.
5. “Yes sister, I hope you do big things and go after your wildest dreams. But guess what? You cannot do the big cool things until you learn to show up for the not-so-cool everyday things. There is no way around that.”
This quote has been shared widely on social media in the past couple of weeks in promotion of the upcoming book release, and I think it encapsulates everything Jordan is trying to say as she encourages her followers to ‘own their everyday.’ Many of us dream of big, fancy, glamorous lives. We look ahead to our highly set goals and can’t wait for the moment we get to stand at the peak of our paths with pride in our own success. But the truth is, no one has ever achieved that without commitment to each small step along the way. Jordan encourages her followers to ‘show-up’ for the little things and to embrace the less exciting, monotonous, and not-so-cool moments too. Because those are the moments that will build each of us, just as they’ve built her. Those are the moments of the everyday. And through her feed, book, blog, podcast and more … Jordan Lee Dooley encourages each of us to truly ‘Own It.’